Do you stay in a marriage that is over or risk financial ruin for happiness? Unless you are a highly evolved Zen master your divorce is likely to “suck” – most do.
Getting divorced at any age is difficult. Everyone wants their marriage to work however divorcing later in life presents unique challenges and being newly single can be terrifying. It is sometimes thought people “your age” are not supposed to get divorced.
If you are divorcing after 50, chances are your children may be teenagers or older. Their reaction may be unfavourable and even hostile. Be prepared to help older children cope with the divorce. It’s also important to monitor your children’s feelings. Your kids may be older, but don’t assume it’s easier on them than it would be if they were younger. You may choose to end your role as husband or wife, but your role as mother or father does not end. Handling your divorce process with your children in mind provides opportunities to share in their lives without the tension.
The financial consequences of a divorce can be significantly more damaging for older divorcing couples. You may have dedicated your entire life to the family and marriage and have no professional skills of any kind. You have have been hard at work earning good money to support a family that now you feel has disappeared. You may even already be retired, your assets fairly fixed and your employment opportunities may be limited. There are now two households to support.
An amicable divorce process will limit the cost of suffering financially and emotionally. As difficult as dealing with all of these issues will be, one of the most significant impacts that divorce over 50 will have on your life is the inevitable financial strain. The equitable division of assets and liabilities is a concern in almost all divorces and generally the older you are the more complicated your finances have likely become.
Given the typical level of assets and complexities it is important that you get legal advice, but doing so doesn’t mean you have to go to battle. No matter what kind of grey divorce you may be facing you have the power to choose how you handle it and we can assist you accomplish a more comprehensive and cost-effective dissolution of your marriage. Even if your split is amicable it is important to seek your own legal advice early on.
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